Why Not?

I see parents running kids to and from school, sports practice, church events, doctor’s appointments, school activities, and in the daily grind of the dreaded “pick-up line” at the school parking lot. In fact, I am definitely one of those crazy parents whisking my mini-van (or sometimes our big 12-passenger van) in and out of the parking lots, whipping open the sliding door, and letting kids jump out just in time — or more often a few minutes late — to the designated activity. We are all busy. Every family and every parent is busy whatever your life involves. We will always find a way to fill our time with something. So when people tell me, “I don’t know how you do it, being a foster parent when you have so many kids and things to do, and you are so busy all the time!” I guess my thought is, “Why not?” There is never going to be a perfect time of peace and calm and zero activity. There is never going to be a perfect time to become a foster parent, or to add children to your home. So why not just go ahead and add that element of “busy” into your life that actually helps people? We have to choose what our time will be devoted to. Why not choose a way to devote your time to meeting the needs of someone else?

When we are out in public and people see our blended family, we almost always get questions about foster care. It’s amazing to me how many people will say, “I’ve always thought about doing that.” I think that is so great! So to all of you I say, “Why Not?” Why not just go ahead and take the training classes to find out more about foster care, more about the kids that need you, and more about ways that you can support foster families. Why not just go ahead and take that next step? We can choose to be intentional about our time, our commitments, and our response to those thoughts that come up in our hearts and minds. We can choose to take a step towards helping children and families affected by foster care.

A favorite family verse for many reasons is Romans 12:2, “Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is — his good, pleasing and perfect will.” What if we applied that verse to our schedules? What are we doing that is simply “conforming to the pattern of this world”, instead of stopping and asking God what He would like to do with our busy schedules? What exciting things might God want to add to our schedules and commitments if we let Him? I hope that for many it might be taking that next step in the foster care journey — whatever that might be for you.

-Sarah Oberndorfer

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